Games that are turn based or allow you to pause or control speed:

• xcom
• city builders
• sims
• anno
• paradox games (probably just stellaris since that has difficulty settings)
• cRPGs
• card games like slay the spire

also

• minecraft
• mmos that don’t require you to think, guildwars 2 just let’s you run around and auto attack that’s pretty effective…